Throughout Annabel Hancox's battle with breast cancer, she devoted her time and energy to supporting other women with the disease. Now husband Simon is starting this year's Race for Life in her memory. Kelly Tyler reports.
WHEN Simon Hancox received an invitation to sound the air horn to signal the start of Derby's Race for Life, he broke down in tears.
His wife, Annabel, 40, died from breast cancer in December. The mum-of-three was gravely ill with cancer when she began talking to other women with the disease through an online support group – but she unselfishly ignored her own plight and devoted her time and energy into motivating the other women.
It was only after she died that it became clear how many lives she had touched and how many of them she had helped. Now, Simon will be setting off the thousands of women at Darley Park in her memory.
Simon, 40, said: "When I was asked by Cancer Research UK to start the race I couldn't believe it. I broke down in tears. It made me realise how far everybody has come since Annabel's death. The support I have had from my family, Annabel's mum and close friends has been amazing."
Annabel left behind daughter Alina, 24, Will, eight, and Sam, four.
Simon will be joined on stage by his two sons. He said: "The boys are very close to each other. We sat and had a conversation about the event and they are looking forward to it. I've been asked to say a few words when I start the race but with 3,000 women dressed in pink standing in front of me, I think the nerves will kick in.
"Friends and family will be coming along so I can enjoy the event but I know it will be a very emotional day."
Annabel, a teaching assistant, of London Road, Alvaston, was diagnosed with cancer in April last year. She had chemotherapy but it was later discovered the cancer had spread to her lungs and liver.
Despite further treatment, her condition continued to deteriorate and she died at the Royal Derby Hospital on December 28.
However, after her death, she left behind an astonishing legacy – a nationwide network of women called Annabel's Angels. Many have come together to take part in Cancer Research UK's Race for Life events across the country – with 12 set to take part in tomorrow's race at Darley Park.
Simon said: "Lots of women, following Annabel's death, said they would like to do something in her memory – even women who didn't know her. Lots of groups set themselves up and called themselves Annabel's Angels. They've since taken part in around 12 Race for Life events across the country including Kent, Worksop and High Wycombe.
"People have been coming from all over the place to show their support, it's been an overwhelming few months.
"Annabel was a private, humble person and she'd be amazed and probably a bit embarrassed at 'all this fuss'."
For Simon, the loss of his wife is still "very surreal". He said: "Little things like taking the kids to school, making their breakfast and packed lunches, crossing the school playground and seeing other mums there – it is all a constant reminder that the children will grow up without a mum.
"They will have milestones in their life and their mum won't be there – when they go to a new school and when have a parents' evening. These thoughts have a habit of creeping into my mind, especially at night time.
"It's very, very difficult. I do put a brave face on but it can change just like that. A song might come on or there may be a smell or sound that reminds me of Annabel. There are certain places I won't go to either because I know it would be too tricky.
"We talk a lot about Annabel as a family. The house isn't like a shrine or anything like that but we talk about her a lot. We are always busy and we are always doing things and seeing people which seems to be working really well."
Simon also finds comfort in writing a blog to channel his thoughts but his main aim has been working tirelessly to carry on his wife's legacy by setting up Annabel's Angels – a non-profit community group to support people living with cancer.
The group decided to continue her work by raising money for cancer support equipment at the Royal Derby Hospital's combined day unit, which cared for Annabel.
And it is now hoped a befriending service will be launched to help people battling the disease.
Simon said: "We have seen there is an opportunity to do something a little more than just short-term fund-raising. There is mileage in this.
"The cancer community is strong. They are a passionate, caring community. Some people might want to put their cancer experience in a box and leave it there but I think there are people who would like to offer their support to people who don't have a family, friendships or a caring environment.
"Annabel was very good at protecting people around her. A day or two before she died she was still researching to help people with cancer. She was loved by many people and liked from afar as well.
"She would be proud of what we are doing and being able to help others in a similar situation, be they patients, carers or families, would have touched her deeply."
Katie Martin, Cancer Research UK's East Midlands events manager, said: "We're really grateful to Simon for agreeing to be our guest of honour at Derby Race for Life in memory of Annabel.
"Race for Life is an amazing way to celebrate life but also remember those who have been lost to the disease."
Participants may be decked out in pink or fancy dress but what is inescapable is the power and strength that comes from thousands of women joining together to confront cancer.
Katie said: "Don't be fooled by the tutus and tiaras. Derby Race for Life is cancer's worst nightmare. Women of all shapes, sizes, ages and levels of fitness take part in Race for Life. They come from different backgrounds and walks of life but they are united by their absolute determination to take on cancer and beat it.
"We are very grateful to everyone who took part in Race for Life in Derby last year and in the past.
"Thanks to them Cancer Research UK has been able to make progress against many forms of the disease.
"But the battle against cancer never stops and, for this reason, we need everyone to return to the fight in 2013 and bring new recruits with them."
For more information visit annabelsangels.co.uk.
To sponsor Annabel's Angels, visit www.raceforlifesponsorme.org/annabels-angels7.
Annabelle's friend, Tessa Summers, is taking part in Race for Life in memory of an "inspirational" woman.
TESSA Summers valued Annabel Hancox as one of her best friends. Left devastated by her death, the 41-year-old was determined to do something in her memory.
So, as a mark of respect for the "inspirational" woman, Tessa rallied a group of women together to take part in Derby's Race for Life – not realising that it would lead to a mass of women all over the country signing up in Annabel's memory.
The 41-year-old, of Chain Lane, in Littleover said: "We all thought that Annabel would get through her cancer. I'm absolutely amazed by how many people have joined. It is so encouraging. We are all running for Annabel – her legacy lives on."
Tessa met Annabel while on a media studies course together at Derby College.
She said: "Annabel also worked at a bar in Derby which I used to go to a lot. We used to go down town together, go to the cinema, anything really. We became very close friends."
It was only when Annabel underwent chemotherapy treatment for the second time that Tessa said that she understood how "real" her cancer was.
Tessa said: "Annabel did not talk about her illness, she was very selfless. I didn't know about her cancer spreading. She kept it to herself which is just amazing. She never complained or moaned. Instead, she was very positive and light-hearted.
"When Simon phoned me and told me Annabel was in intensive care I could not believe it. I was so shocked. I never imagined for one second that she would die.
"Simon said she only had hours to live and as I could not get to Derby, I told him to tell her that I loved her."
Six months on, Tessa she still thinks about her best friend every day.
She said: "Even now I still feel she is around me. I still see Simon and whenever I go to the house I still expect to see Annabel coming down the stairs. I've kept her text messages on my phone. I like to read them.
"It is devastating. She was a beautiful person inside and out. I will never ever forget her and I look at photographs of her.
"It's hard to come to terms with it. I feel like a piece of the jigsaw has been lost."
After Annabel's death, Tessa said she spoke to Simon about setting up a Race for Life group on social networking site Facebook.
Scores of people saw the group and have since signed up and taken part in various Race for Life events across the country.
"We are doing it for Annabel," said Tessa. "She helped others when she was going through cancer so it is only fair for us to carry on.
"There are those who have cancer and those who have to keep so strong and keep up hope for the sufferers.
"I'm looking forward to the event. It's a brilliant way to get everybody together. Reading all of the different stories on people's placards on their backs is truly inspirational."
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